OMG, my brain is reeling

[mrs_sweetpeach]

I just got off the phone with my mother, to ask about my nephew's girl-friend's baby shower. And learned that my nephew has not just gotten his girlfriend pregnant, no, he actually has actually had a baby with another girl. That baby is a boy, about four months old. The not-yet-here baby is a girl, due in late August (I think). Oh, and my niece and her husband are expecting their first child at the end of November.

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Congrats...?

[bellawishing]

I can totally identify with the babies though-I have a half brother 6 days older than I am...an interesting relationship-almost twins...yet no.

Re: Congrats...?

[mrs_sweetpeach]

You know, that's a point. Did you grow up with your half brother?

The drama in the family is just... overwhelming. My ma put pictures of my nephew, the ex-girlfriend and their child on facebook and now the not-ex-gf is having fits. My nephew is apparently wants nothing to do with his son and is supposedly terminating his parental rights, but I think the girl ought to take him to court for child support. He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. (Oh, and the photos -- taken recently *and* my nephew's in them.)

The current gf wants my mom to cut the ex-gf and her great-grandbaby out of her life. I'm opposed to this. Babies thrive on love and there's a blood connection there whether or not the gf wants there to be.

Belonging to my mom by blood but having been adopted out of the family gives me a rather unique perspective on the problem. So much in my life didn't make sense until I found my ma. Just the way my mind works and what I find funny or how I react to stress. Weird stuff normal (non-adopted people) never notice or think about.

Re: Congrats...?

[bellawishing]

Yeah- I was adopted out of my family at the age of 9. i totally understand...

no, wasn't raised with him. I only found out where my brother was about a month ago. I knew about him-but I found him when I opened up a facebook acct. I'm still the youngest...which sucks..lol

I think current gf should just but out and nephew should man up. Grandma's are entitled to spoil whomever they damn well please. imho...:`)

Re: Congrats...?

[mrs_sweetpeach]

Oh, that's such a wonderful quote, "Grandma's are entitled to spoil whomever they damn well please." I think I'm going to have to ask my favorite word art designer to create art with it.

Re: Congrats...?

[bellawishing]

lol

[maddiec24.livejournal.com]

Damn! He really gets around. It's not funny, but... damn.

[mrs-sweetpeach.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I was not happy when I found about the pregnant girlfriend, I was stunned when my mom had me bring up her facebook and saw him with his ex-gf and child. For the longest time all I could do was stare and mimic a goldfish. I didn't know what to say -- and my introduction to the newest member of the family was gentle in comparison to my mom's -- she came home one day to find her grandson, great-grandson, and the boy's mother sitting on her couch. Until that very moment she had no inkling of the existence of two of three.

I was hoping going into the Army would straighten him out. Now I wonder if he'll go at all -- not to mention whether it would work for him. I just don't know what to think. I've had issues with this kid since he was a little kid. I actually asked jebra if he thought we should take him home with us to raise, but we agreed we wouldn't trust him alone in our house (and this being when he was a pre-teen). Now I wonder if that would have been better; if, somehow, we could have gotten through to him.

I feel bad for him, having to grow up with a mother who was constantly yelling, and I understand why he learned to ignore yelling and to treat it as both meaningless and insignificant. But it bothers me that he doesn't look beyond the yelling and that he's acts like he can do whatever he wants without consequence.

Last night I told jebra that for the first time I was glad I didn't live closer to my family. He asked why, as he feels the situation doesn't concern me and I should stay out of it. The thing is though, that if we were there, I know I'd be right in the midst of all the choas. For one thing, the gf and ex-gf are acting like hormonal teenagers (which is exactly what they are) and it's pissing me off. The two babies will be half-brothers/sisters and I think it'd be better for them if they grew up knowing one another. They share blood and there's something for that bond that isn't trivial. I don't know how to explain it, but having been adopted out of the family and then coming back, I can say that that bond is real and should be respected.

[betagoddess.livejournal.com]

Yikes! I guess responsible he's not! *sigh*

[mrs-sweetpeach.livejournal.com]

Sadly, his photo ought to appear in the dictionary under the definition of irresponsible.

I keep wanting to ask what the heck he was thinking -- even though I'm 99.9% certain no thought about consequences was involved either time.