Drinking from a firehose

Yeah, I was not happy when I found about the pregnant girlfriend, I was stunned when my mom had me bring up her facebook and saw him with his ex-gf and child. For the longest time all I could do was stare and mimic a goldfish. I didn't know what to say -- and my introduction to the newest member of the family was gentle in comparison to my mom's -- she came home one day to find her grandson, great-grandson, and the boy's mother sitting on her couch. Until that very moment she had no inkling of the existence of two of three.

I was hoping going into the Army would straighten him out. Now I wonder if he'll go at all -- not to mention whether it would work for him. I just don't know what to think. I've had issues with this kid since he was a little kid. I actually asked jebra if he thought we should take him home with us to raise, but we agreed we wouldn't trust him alone in our house (and this being when he was a pre-teen). Now I wonder if that would have been better; if, somehow, we could have gotten through to him.

I feel bad for him, having to grow up with a mother who was constantly yelling, and I understand why he learned to ignore yelling and to treat it as both meaningless and insignificant. But it bothers me that he doesn't look beyond the yelling and that he's acts like he can do whatever he wants without consequence.

Last night I told jebra that for the first time I was glad I didn't live closer to my family. He asked why, as he feels the situation doesn't concern me and I should stay out of it. The thing is though, that if we were there, I know I'd be right in the midst of all the choas. For one thing, the gf and ex-gf are acting like hormonal teenagers (which is exactly what they are) and it's pissing me off. The two babies will be half-brothers/sisters and I think it'd be better for them if they grew up knowing one another. They share blood and there's something for that bond that isn't trivial. I don't know how to explain it, but having been adopted out of the family and then coming back, I can say that that bond is real and should be respected.