Drinking from a firehose

Shit, Moco, I didn't know that! It wasn't just me that found my birth mother -- my (non-blood-related- adopted-by-the-same couple-) brother found his mother too. He hired a, um, social worker I think, to help him search. And I had to hire a private investigator, not for the search but to contact the guy my mom believed to be the father after I'd successfully tracked him down. I needed someone to contact him in a nice way and ask for a DNA sample. It's just as well I didn't approach him myself -- turns out that as much as she didn't want it to be so, my father was one of the two unidentified men who raped my mother one hot Georgia night.

But I digress. What I meant to ask is what you've tried so far. Maybe I know of something you don't. (Feel free to take this to email if you want, you should have my addy somewhere.)